Marriage: Making The Whole Better

According to the National Marriage Project out of Rutgers University (2004), there are a number of factors that lend to a decrease in the likelihood of divorce during the first ten years of marriage.

To Be A Better Man!

When I want to be a better man:

Married Sex: Sex Trade

Maybe the simpler way would be to perform oral sex on my spouse if they perform oral sex on me.  It certainly absolves us of having to figure out if each is making an equal contribution.  Or does it?  Trade-offs  (I’ll do this if you’ll do that) may seem equal and fair.  In practice, each partner is prone to rule out anything that makes him or her uptight.   It is the way of things.

Enough?

How long is normal?  …for making love…

Married Sex: Sexual Inhibitions Part III

 

This is the last of a three part series.  We’d like to share some strategies for dealing with sexually inhibited, introverted or repressed spouses.  And we do…

Piston, We Have A Problem!

I’ve gotta talk to my unit, my member, my penis…my piston.  I’ve gotta let him know some things.  I’ve gotta say to my little guy “Piston, we have a problem!“

The conversation will probably go like this:

Married Sex: Sexual Inhibitions Part II

 

This is the second of a three part series.  We’d like to share some strategies for dealing with sexually inhibited, introverted or repressed spouses.  And we do…

 

To reiterate, the reasons are numerous as to why some spouses are intensely reluctant to openly share their sexual thoughts and desires…or to respond to yours! Our upbringing, cultural influences, faith convictions and past interpersonal relationships are but a few of the contributors to our sexual personalities.  However, if you are at an end of your rope as to how to get your inhibited spouse to ‘open up’, we provide some very general approaches to drawing them out and for kindling sexual exploration and adventure in your marriage.

 

Sexual intimacy requires mutual trust and a sense of relational security.  What this means to you is that your spouse (and you) needs to have a fundamental belief that you have their best interest at heart, think highly of them and that they can express things with you and to you as with no other.  Along those lines, getting past their barriers may require focused effort on your part.  We’ll share the second of three approaches or strategies for your consideration.  The second:

Sex or Intimacy?

I suspect that many of us (guys) are more physical when it comes to sex.  I mean we are ‘inspired’ by the sensations and anticipation of gratification…in the nation…with a standing ovation.  Okay, so now I’m just being silly.

Her Libido’s Fallen and It Can’t Get Up!

A wife’s loss of libido (desire for sex) may involve medical issues requiring the efforts of a medically trained professional or more severe relational issues arising from troubled relationships, present or past abuse.  There may be other circumstances requiring objective intervention by someone outside of the relationship.  

 

However, in many instances, a healthy drive can be regained and promoted by the dutiful efforts of a loving husband.  that’s you, dude!

 

We recommend some basic practical approaches to both spouses helping dear wife regain her desire for sex.

Married Sex: Sexual Inhibitions Part I

 

In this three part series of posts, we’d like to share some strategies for dealing with sexually inhibited, introverted or repressed spouses.