Testicle Self-Examination

A typical man highly regards his penis and is protective of it.  Maybe that’s why he’s grabbing it, repositioning it and playing with it all the time!  Like it’s a puppy that he keeps in his pants…or something!   Anyway…

He must take care to pay more than just superficial attention to his revered member.  The American Cancer Society recommends men check themselves early detection of possible testicular cancer.  There is no prescribed frequency for doing so.  We’ll recommend you consider doing it monthly.

Once a month, after taking a bath or shower:

• Examine each testicle individually.
• With both hands, hold the testicle between your thumbs and fingers and roll it gently.
• Be on the alert for any hard lumps or nodules (smooth rounded masses) or any change in the size, shape or consistency of your testes.
• Do not mistake the epididymis (a tightly coiled tube on the upper, outer side of each testicle) or the blood vessels and spermatic cord that extend from the testicles as being cancer.

Snuggle Time?

There are appropriate times for everything, including cuddling, kissing…whatever.  Learning to recognize those times…  Actually, recognizing when it is NOT those times is as much a sign of emotional maturity as it is beneficial to maintaining the peace…and getting a piece. later!

Retrosexuals?

Retrosexual.  No, this is not merely the oppositie of the metrosexual male: one who pays particular attention to his appearance and is ever ware of new trends in style.  Yes, this is any man or woman who embraces what are contemporarily known as traditional values.  They are focused on building strong families and strong interpersonal relationship with others.  While they will reward themselves, retrosexuals like to live simply and wholesomely.

A retrosexual wife loves being Betty Crocker in the kitchen and Betty Boop in the bedroom (it’s all about the images)!  She’s a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets.  Her life is a mix of old world family values and a modern energy to do things creatively exploiting modern tools…even sexual tools.

Likewise, the retrosexual husband eagerly applies himself to the traditional provider/protector role.  T-shirt and jeans clad, his interest are as simple as his values.  He likes his tools charged and reliabale.  He applies the same approach to his sex.   It’s not terribly creative but it’s hard working and high energy sex!

Retrosexuals may seem closed minded…but that’s only because they are being careful not to let odd things…slip through their cracks!

What?

Christian Sex

There is no such animal.  Seriously?

Frottage

Do you know about frottage ?  We may more commonly know it as dry humping…though it may not be altogether dry!

Basically, frottage or dry humping is grinding the vulva against some part of husband’s body for stimulation. Rubbing on or humping his thigh, his pubic bone, or even his tailbone (horse back ride) can be a stimulating exercise. 

If wife has an extremely sensitive clitoris, she may especially appreciate the indirect stimulation.   Clothes on or off, a good time can be had.  Frottage.

Marriage and Manhood: Struggling with Listening

Husbands, how often, when our wives are sharing their heart, thoughts or challenges with us, do we assume the role of problem solver? How automatic is it for us to want to share our ideas of what should or should have been done or said?  Is their another role we might play?

While sharing such thoughts may be appropriate at times, there are a fair number of times when she just wants to be heard and supported through empathy. We may be naturally inclined to be rescuers, problem solvers…fixers.  We hear our spouse in distress or perplexed and view it as an opportunity to shed light and resolve.  In so doing, we may forgo an opportunity to play another key role in any relationship…that of a listener.

I know I struggle with this. In most every other area of my life, I am asked to solve problems and make decisions. It is unnatural for me to listen to people’s challenges and not immediately start to conceive of ways to address them.  It is sometimes lost on me that simple empathy and expressions of compassion are all that are required of me.  In the movie Superman Returns, the hero’s father (Jor-EL) teaches him that he must use his powers to save the world from things they cannot themselves manage…leave the rest to the world.

Our wives do not necessarily want to replace their wisdom with our own.  At times, they are simply looking to share their hearts with us and know that we support them in their own journey for answers and resolution.  It may be appropriate to ask whether they’d like our advice or are just looking for a sounding board or shoulder on which to lean.  As we struggle to learn how and when to be listeners, let’s remember the wisdom given to the son of Jor-EL.

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