As we’re preparing to release our new e-book, a devotional for married couples, we are moved by just how practical biblical teaching is on the subject of sex in marriage.
Hyper-spiritualizing sex is detrimental to our ability to experience physical intimacy in marriage as it was designed–to be relational, spiritual and regular. As Christians, we believe that our faith transforms even the most common life-function into something that must be glorifying to God (Colossians 3:17). However, we must also acknowledge that many of the common functions of life–eating, talking….sex–have very pragmatic considerations too. Hyper-spiritualizing sex is the practice of regarding the spiritual aspects of something at the expense of its natural aspects.
Christ and Apostle Paul each were very pragmatic in their treatment of sex while also recognizing the supernatural exchanges inherent to it. Jesus invokes both the spiritual impact and the natural recourse of our sexual behaviors in Matthew chapters 5 and 19. Paul does likewise in I Corinthians 7 and elevates the duty of mates toward one another sexually to a very high standard. He teaches sex should be engaging, fulfilling and a regular part of married life.
This post is not to examine those teachings but to say that our reading of them as well as the entirety of scripture should not be merely to adopt a high-minded theological position on the power and purposes of human sexuality but to implore couples to be willing to discover how scripture guides us toward fruitful sexual behaviors. We must prayerfully read and rightly divide God’s word so that we make right applications to our lives (2 Timothy 2:15).
If you are married or on a journey toward marriage, ask God to give you a fresh vision for the role of sex in marriage. His grace does not stop at the bedroom door, allowing law to take over. There is more virtue to sex than vice.