Sex: Grace Behind the Bedroom Door

Marriage Day

As we’re preparing to release our new e-book, a devotional for married couples, we are moved by just how practical biblical teaching is on the subject of sex in marriage.

Hyper-spiritualizing sex is detrimental to our ability to experience physical intimacy in marriage as it was designed–to be relational, spiritual and regular.   As Christians, we believe that our faith transforms even the most common life-function into something that must be glorifying to God (Colossians 3:17).  However, we must also acknowledge that many of the common functions of life–eating, talking….sex–have very pragmatic considerations too.  Hyper-spiritualizing sex is the practice of regarding the spiritual aspects of something at the expense of its natural aspects.

Christ and Apostle Paul each were very pragmatic in their treatment of sex while also recognizing the supernatural exchanges inherent to it.  Jesus invokes both the spiritual impact and the natural recourse of our sexual behaviors in Matthew chapters 5 and 19.  Paul does likewise in I Corinthians 7 and elevates the duty of mates toward one another sexually to a very high standard.  He teaches sex should be engaging, fulfilling and a regular part of married life.

This post is not to examine those teachings but to say that our reading of them as well as the entirety of scripture should not be merely to adopt a high-minded theological position on the power and purposes of human sexuality but to implore couples to be willing to discover how scripture guides us toward fruitful sexual behaviors.  We must prayerfully read and rightly divide God’s word so that we make right applications to our lives (2 Timothy 2:15).

If you are married or on a journey toward marriage, ask God to give you a fresh vision for the role of sex in marriage.  His grace does not stop at the bedroom door, allowing law to take over.  There is more virtue to sex than vice.

Help Get The Message Out

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Hello all!

It was a very productive summer for TPB.  We’re publishing a couple of new books, updating our inventory and redesigning our categories and we have done quite a few media interviews.

One of the interviews was with a major network nationally televised news show here in the United States.  Over two days, camera crews sat with us to document what we do.  We were able to share what we believe God’s heart is for sex in marriages.  This was a wonderful experience for us and the technical crew, producers and interviewer were all great to us.

To complete the interview piece for their broadcast, the news show would like to interview married Christian couples who have used marital aids in their marriage.  TPB’s interview centered around the ethics of sex in the church and why we do what we do.  We are excited to have this huge platform to expose couples to a fresh vision for sexual intimacy in the context of marriage.  We hope that some of you would prayerfully consider helping in that regard.

If you are willing to consider being interviewed, you may contact us at info@thepurebed.com with your name and a day and night contact number or with your questions about this opportunity.   We will not contact you, however.  Your information will be passed to the network’s producer we’re working with who will contact you to discuss the piece and answer your questions.

Of course, this opportunity is time sensitive as we will likely forward the first few inquiries.

Do Not Disturb

Do Not Disturb boudoir sign

We have this:

The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. I Corinthians 7:4 KJV

What is a Christian couple to make of this verse in the context of Paul’s teaching about sexual intimacy in marriage?

As the preceding verse establishes that Read more of this post

3 Things We Think Married Couples Must Know

In no particular order, here are three issues we look forward to blogging more about in 2012!  Of course, when we talk about sex, it is in the context of marriage between one man and one woman.

1. Orgasm isn’t Read more of this post

Thank You!

The Pure Bed

2011 was an extraordinary year for us on many fronts.  We had our best sales year.  We were able to minister to married couples in churches, small group meetings, special marriage events and online.

We give our God the glory.  And we are thankful for you.

We are so very thankful to you for your support.  Whether you follow and/or retweet us on Twitter, Like us on Facebook, subscribe to our newsletter at ThePureBed.com or our blog, purchased from our store, joined the discussions at our forum for husbands, joined one of our Choices events, THANK YOU!

We desire to take our celebration,  advocacy and support of marital intimacy to another level in 2012.  We look forward to two book releases, more online events and one-on-one  interactions with couples.  Our store will be reorganized to provide more product information. And we look forward to doors opening of which we have not even conceived.

Our most important mission is your [prospective] marriage.  Marriage is the cornerstone of every strong community.  Our houses of state can do nothing if our individual houses are faltering. 

Thank you for helping us lift marriage and, in most instances, to lift God through our discourses.  Thank you.  Thank you.  Thank YOU!

The Humpty Tweet

We tweeted something earlier that struck a chord with many.  The responses ranged from affirmation to inquiry to the questioning of the legitimacy of our point.

So, we thought we’d carry the discussion over to our blog to expand and expound upon what we consider to be a valid observation.

The tweet? Read more of this post

The Inaugural Choices Tele-Chat

A new kind of Choices™ Marriage Event…

Join us on this conference call to have your question(s) answered and Read more of this post

Free Choices Marriage Event in Altadena, CA

What: A facilitated discussion among Christian couples.

Where: Altadena, CA (Southern California)

When: February 26, 2011 @ 11 AM (Approx. 1.5 to 2.5 hours)

Cost: Free

CME will facilitate a discussion among married Christian couples.  CME will launch the conversation citing scriptural direction regarding guidance on healthy sexual behavior and attitudes.  Following this brief introduction, CME will guide a discussion that explores ethics and quality of sexual relationships in marriage.

CME Facilitation Goal: To assist couples in understanding the basis for healthy sexual perspectives and to identify proven methods of resolving, enhancing or improving sexual intimacy in marriage.

This event is sponsored by Couples for Life, a non-denominational Christian marriage group.  Go here to register.

Go here to learn how you can bring a CME event to your church, small group meeting, conference or other venue.  Our Intimate Choices is a brand of Bordenz Enterprises, the operating company behind ThePureBed.com.

Our Mission: To expose married Christian couples to Biblical principles regarding marriage and sexual choices; to promote the church’s role in preparing couples to experience healthy sexuality in marriage; to remove the shame, guilt and frustrations all too common to married couples concerning their sex lives.

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