Anorgasmia

No, it’s not a rock band!  No, it’s not the name of your niece’s 4th daughter!   No, it’s not a new hybrid orchid.  Stop it!

Anorgasmia is

Wives: Doctor, Doctor, Give Me The News!

Some studies show that women have a greater incidence of sexual dysfunction than men.  The gap can be as great as

Hairy Nipples and Stuff!

I was asked about removing hair from one’s nipples and found all of this information:

Personal Lubricant 101

Lubrication can be an important component of pleasurable sexual play. While we may produce enough vaginal lubrication to allow for penetration, at times it may become necessary to use additional lube to help out.

Here is a basic  comparison of the two types of

Testicle Self-Examination

A typical man highly regards his penis and is protective of it.  Maybe that’s why he’s grabbing it, repositioning it and playing with it all the time!  Like it’s a puppy that he keeps in his pants…or something!   Anyway…

He must take care to pay more than just superficial attention to his revered member.  The American Cancer Society recommends men check themselves early detection of possible testicular cancer.  There is no prescribed frequency for doing so.  We’ll recommend you consider doing it monthly.

Once a month, after taking a bath or shower:

• Examine each testicle individually.
• With both hands, hold the testicle between your thumbs and fingers and roll it gently.
• Be on the alert for any hard lumps or nodules (smooth rounded masses) or any change in the size, shape or consistency of your testes.
• Do not mistake the epididymis (a tightly coiled tube on the upper, outer side of each testicle) or the blood vessels and spermatic cord that extend from the testicles as being cancer.

Morning Wood: Man At Rest!

Morning wood is the state of penile erection many men experience upon awaking each morning. Those in the scientific establishment prefer to use the scientific sounding moniker of Nocturnal Penile Tumescence. Or NPT for short.

A healthy man may experience NPT as many as

Guts and Ruts: Obese Men and Quality Sex

Changes in hormone levels and diminished sexual quality of life among obese men are related to the degree of

Husbands Becoming Better lovers!

The struggle for couples to find their sexual stride and work cooperatively to achieve sexual fulfillment can be challenging.  Sexual compatibility is made more difficult when

What You Thinkin’?: Focusing During Lovemaking

‘Did I turn the heater down?’, “I hope I have enough bread for the kids’ lunches tomorrow.’, ‘You know, if I leave right after the kids go to school, I can probably stop by my friend’s house for a while after I’m done at the church.’….

These are the kind of random thoughts that can float through my head if I’m not consciously attending to the moment during times of intimacy.  It has less to do with hubby’s performance than the inclination of the human mind to continually process and assess.

It took a few years before I figured out how to conquer the random thinking.  I’ll just tell you a couple of ways I do it (that I believe are healthy), then I hope you can share yours.

1. I talk.  Talking to my husband during sex and listening to him talk to me help keeps me ‘dialed in’ during THE DO.  It’s not always provocative talk.  It’s humor, playful taunting, occasional ‘I love you’, and compliments.

2. I focus on the environmental things that increase my arousal.  I like the sound of heavy breathing, moaning, slurping, sucking, etc.  I’m turned on by the smell of semen and the general smell of sex mixed with the aroma of scented candles.  These environmental elements are a great focus to stay ‘in the mood’.

3. I focus on what I am doing to bring him pleasure.  If we are into intercourse in the missionary position, though it is his power position, I can move my hips forward and backward as a counter move to his own.  I can tighten my pelvic muscles as when doing Kegels to increase his enjoyment.  I can simply describe what he is doing into his ear.  Just the act of doing that can be more arousing to him…and me.  Sometimes, a sensuous kiss gets the mind back on track.

We are both great lovers.  However, we both can fall victim to rogue thoughts.  Do you lose your focus sometimes during intimate moments?  How do you successfully get it back on track?

When Masturbation Is Mastering You!

Compulsive masturbation.   While we are led to believe it typically happens among men (particularly younger men), it can and does occur among women also.   The compulsion is clear by observing certain behaviors in yourself or spouse: