3 Powerful Questions Spouses Ask Each Other

Inattention and disaffection are crippling to a marriage.  Becoming “one flesh” is complicated by the exponential growth of responsibility over the years of our marriages.  Before long, the urgent crowds out the important and our marriage relationship takes backseat to marriage business.

What follows are three questions that may

10 Ways to Revolutionize Your Marriage This Year

You know what a resolution for the new year is?  It is an acknowledgement for a need to change.  And since it comes in the form of a resolution, it is also a tacit admission that the change may be difficult.

Are you resolved to see improvements in your marriage?  Here are 10 areas of focus to make this a

5 Practices of Successful Marriages

So you say you want to rekindle the flame? Are you looking to jumpstart a marriage that’s fallen into a bit of a rut? Are you concerned that your relationship has taken backseat to the other aspects of your life?  Here are 5 basic practices common to marriages marked by mutual fulfillment, joy, passion and commitment over the long term.

Anatomy of An Erotic Bath

He gathers each item necessary to prepare a romantic and exhilarating bathing experience for his wife. To communicate her value to him, he’s avoided using common things on her this night. He has purchased a

Durable Young Love

An older couple are driving down the highway when another car passed them.

The woman notices the occupants of the other car are young and obviously in love. The girl is sitting very close to her boyfriend as they cruise down the highway.

This causes the woman to think back to when she and her husband were young and in love, and wondering where the show of affection had disappeared to over the years.

Finally she says to her husband, “Remember when we used to be like that young couple? Where did the love go, honey?” He quietly replied, “I haven’t moved….”

The moral of this story is that there is a phase in marriage when a couple grows dull to the depth and special quality of their relationship. The durability and sustainability of it may even come into question. It is worth remembering that all that ever made your marriage work still exists. You must recognize the best qualities again. They are in you. They ARE you.

Take a walk in the park, go bike riding through the neighborhood, kick your shoes off and walk along the beach or lakefront, go to a museum together, see a play together, watch the river flow while beneath a shady tree together…light some candles, play soft music and cook a meal together. All that ever made your marriage work still exists. You must recognize the best qualities again. They are in you. They ARE you.

Love Out Loud!

How does it feel when a friend, coworker or even unfamiliar person compliments you on your clothes or a physical feature…tastefully?  Do you feel good, desirable, appreciated…noticed?  Are you getting that kind of affirmation?

Are you giving it?

Married Sex: Sizzle to Fizzle?

Like the marriage itself, the sex life of a married couple is organic. Our interactions begin one way and often end having gone through a series of trials, changes, events. Over the course of our marriages, the priority of sex may be downgraded. Alone, this is not necessarily a negative occurrence. The challenge is that intimacy may fall victim to routine. In other words, we may go from sizzle to fizzle with no intervention by either spouse. How do you know when you’re married sex has lost its…humph? Ask yourself the following questions:

But Is It Special?

Orgasm is sweet violence.  A thrashing body, muscular contractions, perspiration, rapid shallow breathing and a wash of happy hormones bring the individual to ecstasy.  And he or she lies spent.  But was it special?