Sex: Grace Behind the Bedroom Door

Marriage Day

As we’re preparing to release our new e-book, a devotional for married couples, we are moved by just how practical biblical teaching is on the subject of sex in marriage.

Hyper-spiritualizing sex is detrimental to our ability to experience physical intimacy in marriage as it was designed–to be relational, spiritual and regular.   As Christians, we believe that our faith transforms even the most common life-function into something that must be glorifying to God (Colossians 3:17).  However, we must also acknowledge that many of the common functions of life–eating, talking….sex–have very pragmatic considerations too.  Hyper-spiritualizing sex is the practice of regarding the spiritual aspects of something at the expense of its natural aspects.

Christ and Apostle Paul each were very pragmatic in their treatment of sex while also recognizing the supernatural exchanges inherent to it.  Jesus invokes both the spiritual impact and the natural recourse of our sexual behaviors in Matthew chapters 5 and 19.  Paul does likewise in I Corinthians 7 and elevates the duty of mates toward one another sexually to a very high standard.  He teaches sex should be engaging, fulfilling and a regular part of married life.

This post is not to examine those teachings but to say that our reading of them as well as the entirety of scripture should not be merely to adopt a high-minded theological position on the power and purposes of human sexuality but to implore couples to be willing to discover how scripture guides us toward fruitful sexual behaviors.  We must prayerfully read and rightly divide God’s word so that we make right applications to our lives (2 Timothy 2:15).

If you are married or on a journey toward marriage, ask God to give you a fresh vision for the role of sex in marriage.  His grace does not stop at the bedroom door, allowing law to take over.  There is more virtue to sex than vice.

Lust: Fantasy and Fact

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.Matthew 5:27, 28

These grave words of Christ, intended to make us free may have made many of us fearful.  And acting out of fear, we may be distancing ourselves evermore from the freedom God intended.  Sexual desire is not a bad thing!

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Christian Marriage Retreat (Southern California)

They’ll gather on a hill nestled between the San Gabriel and Pomona Valleys in Southern California.  They’ll come from different walks of life, different places on the economic strata, different cultures and different life experiences.  They’ll have in common a love for Christ and a devotion to nurturing a healthy and happy marriage.  And what’s drawing these people to this hill? Read more of this post

Free Electronic Book Giveaway!

As appreciation for being a blog visitor and/or TPB customer, we are going to give you a special gift…ABSOLUTELY FREE!

It is the latest book by our friends, Robert & Susan Irwin.

Appearing on television, radio and in printed media, Robert & Susan have spent over a decade helping married Christian couples to improve their married sex lives.

Their books are some of the most popular Christian sex guides available anywhere.

They have just finished up a new, big book (over 200 pages) and it is filled with answers to, just about, every question you might have about how to improve YOUR married sex life.

Even better, because Robert owes me a favor, I talked him into offering our supporters a copy for the very low price of…FREE!

It is titled… Read more of this post

I Touch Myself: Christians and Masturbation

The following outlines a counter thought to the belief in the Christian community that masturbation is an offense against God or healthy sexuality for people of faith. Read more of this post

Free e-Booklet: Christian Sex Ethics

Download our free electronic booklet, Christian Sex Ethics, from The Pure Bed Married Couples Sex Series. This is a gift from us to you to start this grand new year.

Christian Sex Ethics

Christian Sex Ethics

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Christian Sex

There is no such animal.  Seriously? Read more of this post

The Most Intimate Song

The restraint of sexual passion IS NOT Christian.  The fullest human expression of it is!  If this statement makes you nervous, get help immediately…from the Bible! Read more of this post

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