10 Ways to Revolutionize Your Marriage This Year

You know what a resolution for the new year is?  It is an acknowledgement for a need to change.  And since it comes in the form of a resolution, it is also a tacit admission that the change may be difficult.

Are you resolved to see improvements in your marriage?  Here are 10 areas of focus to make this a

Transparency In The Moment

So you’re planting little kisses on hubby’s torso and you’ve just just begun to kiss his belly…when he tries to push your

The Other Sex Talk

Situation: You’d love to tell your husband or wife the way you feel about your sex life or about that thing they do during lovemaking that drives you nuts, but their too sensitive to take your feedback constructively. If you are honest with them, they are going to get defensive. It’s happened before.Question: So, what do you do? Tell them the truth and have them blow up or shut down? Or, keep it in and suffer silently?

Answer:

You Have Not Because You Ask Not

We, adults, know that the most direct way to get what you want is to ask for it.  Of course, the way you ask matters.  This truth applies to sex also you know?

Love Out Loud!

How does it feel when a friend, coworker or even unfamiliar person compliments you on your clothes or a physical feature…tastefully?  Do you feel good, desirable, appreciated…noticed?  Are you getting that kind of affirmation?

Are you giving it?

Do You Know His Erogenous Zones?

Wives, do you know what areas of your dear husband’s body are most sensitive to touch?  Where, besides his penis, is he responsive to heightened arousal?

Married Sex: Sex Trade

Maybe the simpler way would be to perform oral sex on my spouse if they perform oral sex on me.  It certainly absolves us of having to figure out if each is making an equal contribution.  Or does it?  Trade-offs  (I’ll do this if you’ll do that) may seem equal and fair.  In practice, each partner is prone to rule out anything that makes him or her uptight.   It is the way of things.

Married Sex: Sexual Inhibitions Part II

 

This is the second of a three part series.  We’d like to share some strategies for dealing with sexually inhibited, introverted or repressed spouses.  And we do…

 

To reiterate, the reasons are numerous as to why some spouses are intensely reluctant to openly share their sexual thoughts and desires…or to respond to yours! Our upbringing, cultural influences, faith convictions and past interpersonal relationships are but a few of the contributors to our sexual personalities.  However, if you are at an end of your rope as to how to get your inhibited spouse to ‘open up’, we provide some very general approaches to drawing them out and for kindling sexual exploration and adventure in your marriage.

 

Sexual intimacy requires mutual trust and a sense of relational security.  What this means to you is that your spouse (and you) needs to have a fundamental belief that you have their best interest at heart, think highly of them and that they can express things with you and to you as with no other.  Along those lines, getting past their barriers may require focused effort on your part.  We’ll share the second of three approaches or strategies for your consideration.  The second: