Sex: Grace Behind the Bedroom Door

Marriage Day

As we’re preparing to release our new e-book, a devotional for married couples, we are moved by just how practical biblical teaching is on the subject of sex in marriage.

Hyper-spiritualizing sex is detrimental to our ability to experience physical intimacy in marriage as it was designed–to be relational, spiritual and regular.   As Christians, we believe that our faith transforms even the most common life-function into something that must be glorifying to God (Colossians 3:17).  However, we must also acknowledge that many of the common functions of life–eating, talking….sex–have very pragmatic considerations too.  Hyper-spiritualizing sex is the practice of regarding the spiritual aspects of something at the expense of its natural aspects.

Christ and Apostle Paul each were very pragmatic in their treatment of sex while also recognizing the supernatural exchanges inherent to it.  Jesus invokes both the spiritual impact and the natural recourse of our sexual behaviors in Matthew chapters 5 and 19.  Paul does likewise in I Corinthians 7 and elevates the duty of mates toward one another sexually to a very high standard.  He teaches sex should be engaging, fulfilling and a regular part of married life.

This post is not to examine those teachings but to say that our reading of them as well as the entirety of scripture should not be merely to adopt a high-minded theological position on the power and purposes of human sexuality but to implore couples to be willing to discover how scripture guides us toward fruitful sexual behaviors.  We must prayerfully read and rightly divide God’s word so that we make right applications to our lives (2 Timothy 2:15).

If you are married or on a journey toward marriage, ask God to give you a fresh vision for the role of sex in marriage.  His grace does not stop at the bedroom door, allowing law to take over.  There is more virtue to sex than vice.

Help Get The Message Out

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Hello all!

It was a very productive summer for TPB.  We’re publishing a couple of new books, updating our inventory and redesigning our categories and we have done quite a few media interviews.

One of the interviews was with a major network nationally televised news show here in the United States.  Over two days, camera crews sat with us to document what we do.  We were able to share what we believe God’s heart is for sex in marriages.  This was a wonderful experience for us and the technical crew, producers and interviewer were all great to us.

To complete the interview piece for their broadcast, the news show would like to interview married Christian couples who have used marital aids in their marriage.  TPB’s interview centered around the ethics of sex in the church and why we do what we do.  We are excited to have this huge platform to expose couples to a fresh vision for sexual intimacy in the context of marriage.  We hope that some of you would prayerfully consider helping in that regard.

If you are willing to consider being interviewed, you may contact us at info@thepurebed.com with your name and a day and night contact number or with your questions about this opportunity.   We will not contact you, however.  Your information will be passed to the network’s producer we’re working with who will contact you to discuss the piece and answer your questions.

Of course, this opportunity is time sensitive as we will likely forward the first few inquiries.

What’s Okay? The Right Sexual Mind

Sex Lives

What's right?

1I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

2And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

 Romans 12:1-2

It’s false pride to believe we naturally know what sexual thoughts and actions are acceptable for us as disciples of Christ.  Many believers come to adopt a position that any sexual act Read more of this post

Lust: Fantasy and Fact

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.Matthew 5:27, 28

These grave words of Christ, intended to make us free may have made many of us fearful.  And acting out of fear, we may be distancing ourselves evermore from the freedom God intended.  Sexual desire is not a bad thing!

Greg walks out of the tall skyscraper onto a quad bustling with people.   Looking for an available space near a water feature, he spies a spot on the grass next to a beautiful reflection pool.  As he collapses on the grassy knoll to settle in, eat his lunch and read the paper, her long legs come into view.  Instantly Read more of this post

Christian Couples Marriage Retreat

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Retreat site: Pacific Palms Resort

The early registration deadline for the Our Intimate Choices Marriage Retreat is fast approaching (Nov. 30).

This year’s retreat is in Southern California.  Future retreats are being considered for Texas and Canada.  The dates and exact locations are yet to be determined.

This retreat is a unique experience for married Christian couples.  We expose the wealth of information that the Bible provides as guidance for a healthy and fulfilling sex life. 

Beyond the platitudes that sex is special and for marriage, OIC will show couples how scriptural principles speak to our common (and not so common) sexual challenges and questions: mismatched libido, withholding sex, managing sexual dysfunction, pornography, depressed sex drive, sexual selflessness vs. selfishness, body image and more.  OIC will speak to the variety of sexual acts about which Christian couples seem to have so many questions: oral sex, anal sex, spanking, fetish, sex toy usage, fantasy and role play and other questions and concerns as anonymously submitted by attendees. 

Attendees will also have an opportunity to meet with my wife and I privately to get advice and guidance on specific issues and concerns.

This January weekend will be a time of renewal and restoration for many.  We plan to also have ThePureBed.com products available for purchase at a discount and prize giveaways including free night’s stay at the resort, free spa treatments and more.

Visit OurIntimateChoices.com for more information and to register.  Don’t forget to reserve your resort room!

The TPB Husbands Forum, Our Intimate Choices and ThePureBed.com are ventures of Bordenz Enterprises, The Marriage Company.

I Touch Myself: Christians and Masturbation

The following outlines a counter thought to the belief in the Christian community that masturbation is an offense against God or healthy sexuality for people of faith. Read more of this post

Our Intimate Choices Marriage Retreat

Retreat site: Pacific Palms Resort
Retreat site: Pacific Palms Resort

The Church, rather Catholic or Protestant, has long struggled to find its voice in promoting the virtue and value of sex while admonishing of its vices.  Over time, there has been the perception that the church is only willing to speak to those vices (adultery, premarital sex, etc.).  In truth, there are those who promote and herald the voice of God concerning positive sexuality in the context of marriage.  However, they are few and access to them may elude many as such conferences and retreats can cost upwards of $1200 and are often too general in their content to permit married Christian couples to gain a foundation that serves them in the long term.  We need more resources that help us answer the questions about how our attitudes and choices align with our faith (is oral sex Read more of this post

Free e-Booklet: Christian Sex Ethics

Download our free electronic booklet, Christian Sex Ethics, from The Pure Bed Married Couples Sex Series. This is a gift from us to you to start this grand new year.

Christian Sex Ethics

Christian Sex Ethics

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