Foreplay: The Power of Touch

We’ve posted previously about the benefits of sensory deprivation.  Removing the use of one sense tends to heighten the sensitivity of the remaining ones.  We can use this to intensify our spouse’s arousal (or they of us).

Idea:

Use an old silk scarf or Read more of this post

Glowing Together While Growing Apart-Part II

Riding the high!

That’s what we are doing when the energy of our marital relationship rests on the Read more of this post

Tap the Fat and Ride the Wave?

Weight gain.  This is an enormously sensitive and, possibly, painful occurence in many marriages.   You married them at 120 lbs.  Now they’re 220 lbs.  It’s not just the gain.  It’s the way you feel about it.  The problem is how you both feel about it.  How are you suppose to feel about it?! Read more of this post

Tips for Time Challenged Lovers

First comes love…then comes marriage…then comes the baby(ies) in the baby carriage(s).  And shortly afterward, the robust romantic life breaks down into a forced 10 minute interlude 2.1 times per week for the next couple of decades.  Jumpin’ Jehoshaphat!   Time’s just not on our side. Read more of this post

Married Sex: Trust Issues

You’ve heard it before.  What happens in the bedroom is often affected by what happens in the kitchen, the living room, the den, the driveway, on the telephone, through email, on the cellphone…  You get the picture?  The constant arguing, the growing resentment between you, the accusations and suspicions all point to behaviors indicative of mistrust.  Intimacy isn’t really happening in sex if there isn’t a fundamental trust between spouses.  Without trust, all you have are the cold distant mechanics of intercourse.  There can be so much more. Read more of this post

Married Sex: Sexual Inhibitions Part III

 

This is the last of a three part series.  We’d like to share some strategies for dealing with sexually inhibited, introverted or repressed spouses.  And we doRead more of this post

Married Sex: Sexual Inhibitions Part II

 

This is the second of a three part series.  We’d like to share some strategies for dealing with sexually inhibited, introverted or repressed spouses.  And we do

 

To reiterate, the reasons are numerous as to why some spouses are intensely reluctant to openly share their sexual thoughts and desires…or to respond to yours! Our upbringing, cultural influences, faith convictions and past interpersonal relationships are but a few of the contributors to our sexual personalities.  However, if you are at an end of your rope as to how to get your inhibited spouse to ‘open up’, we provide some very general approaches to drawing them out and for kindling sexual exploration and adventure in your marriage.

 

Sexual intimacy requires mutual trust and a sense of relational security.  What this means to you is that your spouse (and you) needs to have a fundamental belief that you have their best interest at heart, think highly of them and that they can express things with you and to you as with no other.  Along those lines, getting past their barriers may require focused effort on your part.  We’ll share the second of three approaches or strategies for your consideration.  The second: Read more of this post

Married Sex: Sexual Inhibitions Part I

 

In this three part series of posts, we’d like to share some strategies for dealing with sexually inhibited, introverted or repressed spouses. Read more of this post

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