Wives: Fixing What We Broke!

How many of us have taken good men for granted?  How many of us have visited the relationship terrors of our past on our present?

As a product of our own self induced trauma, there may exist an emotional distance between us and husband.  He isn’t as affectionate anymore.   He doesn’t initiate intimacy as much.  When he does, it is mechanical intercourse for the sake of his seminal discharge.

Take heart, beautiful!

He may have lost his sexual appetite for you but may not have totally lost his commitment to you.  Prayerfully, wisely, and skillfully woo your man!  You may have to dress sexier, speak softer and listen to him  more deeply to hear what he is saying beyond the words he is speaking.  You’ll have to become a healer after having played the part of the wounded.

A good Biblical example would be Leah.  Jacob immediately loved her sister Rachel, with his whole heart.  He was ‘tricked’ into marrying Leah.  She was a chore for him…not an affection or desire.  He learned to love Leah with time.  

Leah waited with grace and patience for her man.   The saying goes ‘if you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with…‘  Even if your husband seems convinced that happiness lies elsewhere, God’s on your side…on the side of keeping family together, living together, loving together!  His heart will turn to you again.

Be patient and prayerful.  God can bridge the gap between time and the heart and lead your husband back to an intimate love for you.  You’ll become your husband’s choice again.  Make sure your heart is open…when his is! 

Be careful to put in the time to fix the things you’ve broken.  Remember the great themes of great marriages: forgiveness, grace, patience, understanding, humility, persistence, affection, faith, hope…God!

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