When Love Is Not Enough…

The song says “all you need is love.”  Well, love is essential to a strong healthyspouse marriage.  But is it really enough?

Love is an offering of an essential part of one’s self to another.  Love is action.  There is friend love, family love, romantic (or erotic) love and a love, as a Christian, we’ve identified as God’s (agape) love.  God’s love is unconditional, complete and unlimited.  So as a spouse, what are we offering to our dear husband or wife?

We have always maintained that the greatest of marriages require of us all of these love types.   On any given day, a type or manifestation of these loves may be more required for a situation.  Over a lifetime, seasons will emerge when a particular kind of love becomes more or less prominent.  But there is a sinew or connection that keeps a marriage afloat as we transition through seasons.  That connection is commitment.

We see commitment to marriage as a personal resolution to make every effort to strengthen the marriage through beneficial and supportive behaviors and actions over a lifetime.  Commitment isn’t just maintaining you’ll never get divorced.  That’s what maniacs say just before they kill their spouse and themself.    Commitment must be effort and effort with a focus.  Our behaviors and our actions are the outward demonstration of our inward resolve to grow and strenghten any relationship…marriage in particular.

Sounds preachy?

It is!  This is a public declaration of truth to which any happily married person of a number of years can attest.  Love is great, wonderful, essential, inspiring, magical…  Commitment is constant.  Commitment is effort.

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3 Responses to When Love Is Not Enough…

  1. Jerry says:

    Great post! “That’s what maniacs say just before they kill their spouse and themself.” I initially laughed out loud when I read this line, then I said, “Whoa! That’s actually frighteningly true.”

    The only other word that came to mind after reading this post was, “perseverance”. Sometimes it can be very difficult to love your spouse–especially if they are making themselves unlovely. This requires more than commitment. It requires faith. Thanks for an awesome post.

  2. infidelityblog says:

    Oh my gosh, soooooo true. Well, I’m an atheist, so we’re looking at the world through different eyes … but I agree. Baby, sometimes love just ain’t enough. 😉

  3. thepurebed says:

    Thank you for the affirmation. And, regardless of the ‘eyes’, marriage is like baking bread. Despite who’s baking it, the essential ingredients and process remain the same (ala C.S. Lewis).

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