Tips for Time Challenged Lovers

First comes love…then comes marriage…then comes the baby(ies) in the baby carriage(s).  And shortly afterward, the robust romantic life breaks down into a forced 10 minute interlude 2.1 times per week for the next couple of decades.  Jumpin’ Jehoshaphat!   Time’s just not on our side.

With the demands of life escalating over time, married couples enter a season where their intimacy needs become naturally deprioritized to accommodate other basic needs…like sleep and eating.  So, what are we to do to preserve that essential part of our marriage in which unique closeness is experienced?  I mean, how do we keep sex as more than a glorified booty call on Friday nights?  We manage it like we manage other things.

Foreplay doesn’t have to be some half-efforted genital rubbing to prime our sexual pumps.  And it can be a full day or multi-day event.  Phone sex may be an option for some of you.  In this age when we all have cell phones, playing a little tele-tease can help get us aroused.  By the time you get home, a quickie won’t seem so much like a quickie…because you’ve been ‘playing’ all day. 

Text messages are another option.  Try starting with simple I love you’s and compliments about your spouse’s anatomy.  Escalate to more descriptive language about your desires.  Describe what you imagine sharing with your spouse, sexually. 

Write notes or complete letters to one another.  Write a story about you and your partner on a deserted island.  Give them something to consider midday…in anticipation for some fulfillment, late night.

Call one another and flirt or make sexual innuendos interspersed throughout your conversations about getting the car fixed, taking the kids to soccer practice or ‘what’s for dinner’ talk.  Follow these efforts up once together with soft kisses at dinner time, gentle caresses and ‘sweet eyes’! 

Time doesn’t have to be a barrier to your sex life.

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