You’re Afraid of Being Judged By Your Spouse!

A Grand Kiss“I want to tell him what I want during sex…but I don’t know how!”  “I’d like to tell her I want to do this…but I don’t know how!”

Is it that you don’t know how to share your needs and desires OR is it that you ‘re concerned that your spouse may see you as being kinky or somehow abhorrent for your thoughts and desires?

Are you afraid of being judged by your spouse?

Asking for what we want is simple…if not easy.  It is as simple as just saying it.  “don’t stop, I want you to keep doing that!”  “Honey, I’d like us to try such and such when we are making love.”  “Babe, I really get turned on when you…”

These are simple statements that communicate need and desire.  What makes the simple uneasy is an underlying fear that what we want is odd or strange enough to turn our spouse off or that it will betray our inner ‘freak’.

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Really, intimacy is about trust, security and love.  We need to trust one another to reveal ourselves and know the other will be, at least, understanding.  At best, we trust our spouses to be responsive, supportive and even eager to please.  We must be secure in the knowledge that our spouse will preserve our integrity by being sensitive to our needs.  We must accept that our spouse’s love for us compels them to always assume the best of our intentions.  However, we must also accept our preferences may not be shared.

It is natural to be uncertain as to how our mate will receive an intimate request or suggestion, particularly if you are young in the marriage.  But we won’t know if we don’t ask!

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One Response to You’re Afraid of Being Judged By Your Spouse!

  1. Annette says:

    Good points, I think I will definitely subscribe!🙂. I’ll go and read some more!

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