I Touch Myself: Christians and Masturbation

The following outlines a counter thought to the belief in the Christian community that masturbation is an offense against God or healthy sexuality for people of faith. Read more of this post

Our Intimate Choices Marriage Retreat

Retreat site: Pacific Palms Resort
Retreat site: Pacific Palms Resort

The Church, rather Catholic or Protestant, has long struggled to find its voice in promoting the virtue and value of sex while admonishing of its vices.  Over time, there has been the perception that the church is only willing to speak to those vices (adultery, premarital sex, etc.).  In truth, there are those who promote and herald the voice of God concerning positive sexuality in the context of marriage.  However, they are few and access to them may elude many as such conferences and retreats can cost upwards of $1200 and are often too general in their content to permit married Christian couples to gain a foundation that serves them in the long term.  We need more resources that help us answer the questions about how our attitudes and choices align with our faith (is oral sex Read more of this post

Married Sex: Trust Issues

You’ve heard it before.  What happens in the bedroom is often affected by what happens in the kitchen, the living room, the den, the driveway, on the telephone, through email, on the cellphone…  You get the picture?  The constant arguing, the growing resentment between you, the accusations and suspicions all point to behaviors indicative of mistrust.  Intimacy isn’t really happening in sex if there isn’t a fundamental trust between spouses.  Without trust, all you have are the cold distant mechanics of intercourse.  There can be so much more. Read more of this post

Christians and Sex: Walking The Line

Some things are done during sex just for the pleasure of it (perhaps most things).  Having said that, we then have to vet our choices to assure we are acting in ways that are not outside our faith.  Paul says in Romans that things done against your faith are sin.

We are Christians.  Though our blog is explicitly sexual, our perspectives are in alignment with our understanding of what God wants for us and allows us.  If you are not a Christian, this and other posts won’t make sense to you.  If you are a Christian, my question then is are there lines we shouldn’t cross and how do we identify them? Read more of this post

God and Marriage

The Pure Bed is to be a resource for ALL married men and women. As a matter of course, however, the site is a reflection of our faith in God and our understanding of His will for intimacy in the context of marriage. What follows is a basic description of our beliefs with respect to that will. Read more of this post
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